Being married is no easy job.
It takes work and compassion and communication and mercy and laughter.
At almost 10 years into marriage, with bills and laundry and jobs and grocery shopping and paper work and kids and unloading the dishwasher and making the beds and taking out the trash, I realize how much time and effort must go into this joining together of two people.
In the midst of questions like “Did you call that number yet?” or “Did you fill out that paperwork?” or “Are you going to keep walking by the trash bags?” or “Have you called the tax guy?” something very important gets forgotten.
Something that comes very easy during the beginning stages of dating, engagement and marriage slowly becomes almost awkward and unnecessary.
Well, I don’t know what got in to me today but I found that very lost something.
I was freezing. We keep our house on the cooler side for the budget and I’m always cold.
In the winter, I’m dressed in many layers, slippers, and usually a blanket with a cup of coffee in my hand.
I was walking by the couch where Jeremy had hung his zip up sweater and thought, “Hmmm… that will work.”
So, instead of walking all the way upstairs to grab another sweater, I just put his on. He happened to look up as I was zipping it up and gave me a look like, “What are you doing?”
“That’s my sweater.”
“I know.” The girls were watching us and I said in a silly voice, “You are my boyfriend so I can wear your sweater if I want to!”
His face was hilarious.
“I’m your boyfriend?”
“Yeah, so I can wear your sweater.”
The girls were laughing and Jeremy said, “Girls… Is Mommy my girlfriend?”
Three very loud “Yes!” rang out.
Again, his smile was priceless.
What was that lost something?
Now, I am sitting here typing and feeling nice and warm in Jay’s sweater.
Looking back, it still feels silly that I even said that to him. Married people don’t say things like that.
But we should. We should flirt every once and awhile.
And, I’ll go ahead and hit publish quickly before I get too embarrassed to even post this very unlike me story.
So… when was the last time you flirted with your husband?
His smile will be worth it.