These words imply things that our society no longer values in marriage.
But, they are biblical principles of our role as a woman in marriage .
What do these words mean? For a marriage to be the way God intended, we need to understand what God was saying when he told women to submit to and respect their husbands.
- respect – a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, esteem, honor
- submit – defer to another’s judgement, opinion or decision, to yield to the power or authority of another person
Wow. Do I really feel that way for Jeremy? Do I see Jeremy’s worth and yield to his God-given authority?
This doesn’t mean that our husband is always right or that their way is the only way or that we have to keep quiet and allow them to do what they want to do.
In remembering that God sees our hearts, how do we respond to our husband when we disagree? Do we trust that God is working through our husbands with our best interest in mind? I know some of you are thinking, “What about my husband? He isn’t living for God or seeking God’s best for our family.”
No matter what your situation, there are ways to respect and submit to your husband.
- prayer – Praying for your husband shows respect, builds love and brings God into your relationship. Don’t pray selfishly – pray truth with a pure heart as you seek God’s will for your marriage. Don’t pray to change your husband… pray for him. Also, pray that God will make the necessary changes in you to be the wife he called you to be.
- attitude – Change your attitude. Work on respecting his ideas, thoughts, dreams and desires. It isn’t always about you. Are you willing to obey your husband without a fight? Read Psalm 119 about obedience to the Lord. A wife’s actions toward her husband are seen by God as an act of obedience to Him.
- see the good – Don’t always focus on the negative. The way to build love is by giving thanks for the good in your husband. Is he a good dad? Is he a good provider? Does he make you laugh? Find something that you love and focus on it for a few days. It will go a long way in changing your attitude towards your husband.
Whether your husband makes changes or not, you are responsible for your own actions. Are you being the wife that God intended in spite of your husband’s attitude or lifestyle? Are you praying for him everyday? Are you willing to be the one to make positive changes in your marriage? As an act of devotion to your spouse and God, will you commit to being the godly wife you were created to be?
A prayer to pray this week… “I pray that our commitment to you and to one another will grow stronger and more passionate everyday. Enable him to be the head of the home as you made him to be and show me how to support and respect him as he rises to that place of leadership. Help me to understand his dreams and see things from his perspective. Reveal to me what he wants and needs and show me potential problems before they arise. Breathe your life into this marriage. Make me a new person, Lord. Give me a fresh perspective, a positive outlook and a renewed relationship with the man you have given me. Help me to see him with new eyes, new appreciation, new love, new compassion and new acceptance. Give my husband a new wife and let it be me.” – Power of a Praying Wife
“A love that lasts forever is courageous enough to ask, “What would make this relationship better?” – Gary Smalley
– this post originally written for awake in February 2008
I’m going to be praying that prayer this week. Will you join me? Copy and paste it into a word doc, print it and post it somewhere you will see it often. We need to be praying for strong, passionate devotion in our marriage. And, let it begin with me…