The topic of intimacy in married life is not the easiest thing to talk about let alone write up a whole post and throw it on the world wide web for all to see. We may joke about that side of married life with a sister-in-law or whisper about our questions with a friend while …
10 Ways to Thrive in Marriage
I’m learning that there are ways to thrive in marriage overseas. Even on days I have to ask things like: “What is that doing in the fridge?” I asked Jeremy who was sitting in the other room. “Er… rather, WHY is that in the fridge?” “Because there is less humidity in there… keep the door …
How to Save Your Marriage
“In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers.” Mr. Rogers We are learning in this perpetual circle of change that a marriage under stress is fragile, precious …
The Most Common Marriage Problem
If you’re married, you know that there are a lot of marriage problems, annoyances, troubles and compromises. Every marriage has every day things that bother or trouble or annoy us. After some years of marriage, I think I’ve realized the most common marriage problem. This common problem is right up there with the one thing …
Learning to Love Like That
I sat curled up in our bed with tears just streaming down my face thinking, “How do we have a love like that?” I had an awful cold. The bed around me was littered with used kleenex and cough drop wrappers. I was home by myself, trying to sleep but every time I laid down, …
Living out the Words
Usually at some point between 6 and 6:30am, I’m squeaking our bedroom door open, leaving the precious air conditioning, hitting the immediate wall of humidity, to make my way downstairs to begin a new day before the girls wake up. I am sure to have my cellphone in hand with my flashlight app turned on. …
Married Life in the Hard Times
I haven’t blogged about married life in a while. Because we are still trying to figure out what married life looks like overseas. Learning how to make a marriage work in the hard times. The desert moments. Difficulties, struggles and challenges of life. I never imagined how different married life would look after the unbelievable …
When Forgiveness is Freely Given
Forgiveness in marriage is probably one of the most difficult things to accomplish. When you’ve been wronged or hurt or mistreated or used or annoyed in any circumstance, it can be hard to find forgiveness. In marriage, these things are magnified 10 times until the word forgiveness gets more than a little fuzzy. It often …
4 Things You Do Not Know About A Successful Marriage
Having a successful marriage means having some pretty open, honest, gut conversation. It means talking about things we know now that we didn’t know when we first got married. Things we’ve learned about ourselves and about each other. We’ve done some marriage counseling and wondered if there were some things we’d been missing when talking …