Nothing will change your life like raising kids and motherhood.
Just when you think you have something figured out, you change again.
Or, your kids change.
Motherhood seasons change. Kids grow up and it will change your life along with their growth.
I’ve been hearing many time recently that my girls have grown.
“Elayna is looking so old these days!” or “I can’t believe how big Abby is getting.” or “Annalise has grown up so much in the past few months!”
They really aren’t babies or toddlers or preschoolers or even elementary kids anymore.
My girls are in new stages and facing new things and, well… they are growing up!
They are growing up and I’m noticing some new things happening.
Our conversations have changed. We talk more about friendships and practical ways to live for God and real heart issues.
Our heights have shifted. I’m no longer towering over them as they toddle on their way. Now, we look eye to eye.
That will change your life.
Our routines look different. They sleep in longer, they eat more, they read for themselves, they get their own band aids, they make their beds… the list goes on and on!
Our discipline has become more about the deeper heart condition behind the action than just teaching them to hear the word no.
Clothing, free time, activities, likes and dislikes… it is all morphing into a new phase of raising kids.
I’m realizing that my mom job has to change and morph with them as they grow.
My “No, don’t do that.” isn’t enough anymore.
Although they are growing in independence, they now need me in new ways.
I must be ready in each and every situation to explain, to point them to God’s Word, to take time out of what I am doing to have meaningful conversation with my girls. I have the responsibility before God to make sure that they have a spiritual understanding and a biblical view of life.
Where parenting toddlers is physically demanding, this new stage is mentally demanding.
I have to be on my game all the time. No breaks. No rest. No stopping.
Again, that will change your life.
Persistence, patience, and love blending together into words of wisdom and acts of parenting that will have an eternal impact on my kids.
The other night, Elayna was dealing with a friendship issue and she needed her mom’s advice. She needed to be heard and to be validated and, at some points, corrected.
I stood there at the door of her room, listening to her pour her heart out.
I caught myself thinking of other things, listing the things I had left to do before I went to bed. I had to make myself refocus and stay focused on the precious words my daughter was saying.
It would have been incredibly easy at that moment to shut her down and close the door, using the “bed-time” excuse. But, I didn’t. I knew that it wasn’t really what she was saying that was so important but the building of a relationship between a mother and a growing daughter.
I felt the structure going up for what I’m hoping will become the beginning of many more meaningful conversations. I sensed boundaries and skills and trust being tested.
More and more moments like that are happening around our house. Big life topics and thoughts being explored. Situations that need godly wisdom and thoughtful consideration.
I find myself parenting with words. many, many words. Parenting from my heart to their hearts.
Raising kids takes investments of faith, time and so much love.
As we walk through teen years, our girls are in boarding school. That again, changes everything.
As the girls grow and change, my style must change. My prayers must go up for the daily wisdom I need to say and do the right things for my girls.
It is amazing how what I am learning in my own relationship with God is often used directly in parenting that very day. What God shows me, I can show them. What He is speaking to me, I can relay to them.
I can use what God is doing in me to make an impact on raising kids in His way. I can open up God’s Word and know what to show my girls because I’ve just studied it myself!
This new season of parenting with words requires me to be in THE WORD so that I can be prepared with words of life to impart on my children.
I want to encourage you that whatever season of parenting you are in, God will equip you to parent in that exact phase.
As the parenting seasons change, God is right there to move and to work in the ways you need. That is the mighty, personal God we serve!
And that, my friends, will change your life.