I’ve been running the phrase “encouragement in marriage” around in my head, trying to think about encouragement in our marriage.
How do we encourage each other?
Honestly, Jeremy isn’t a man of many words. He is very purposeful when he chooses to speak and encouragement isn’t something that comes easily for him. I sense his encouragement through actions rather than words.
For a wordy girl like me, that has been kind of hard to get used to in our marriage.
But, over the past few years, knowing words are important to me, he has started ending our day with saying something encouraging to me.
Something simple, something like, “Jen, you’re fantastic.” or “Jen, you look beautiful today.”
Yes, it makes my night.
But, as much as I do love words, I have realized the value of his steadfast, encouraging ways. The sense I get from his actions, feeling his encouragement rather than hearing him say encouraging things.
If you’ve been reading the blog over the past 2 years, you know that I’ve been in the middle of a physical battle.
A battle with the unknown.
A battle with a possible scary diagnosis of MS.
Recently, I was in Cleveland. again. This time for a spinal tap. Another step in the process…
Through this entire thing, as life changing as it may be for us, Jeremy has been a rock.
His encouragement comes through strength, understanding, care and calm.
His attention never wavers and his emotions are steady. His ability to provide a quiet place in the storm is the most valuable encouragement I’ve ever received.
The other night, as I pulled up some information about some of the test results we’ve seen so far, I walked over to his chair and knelt down by his arm. He took my face in his hands and said, “Jen, whatever comes, we will get through it.”
In that moment, I didn’t need to know how fantastic I was or how beautiful I was… I needed him.
I needed the encouragement that comes from sharing a burden with my soul mate.
I needed the encouragement that is Jeremy.
How does encouragement happen in your marriage?
It might not look like you think it should. You might need to dig deep and find his way of encouraging you. Don’t be afraid to talk with your spouse about the phrase “encouragement in marriage” and let him know how he can encourage you best!
And make sure you ask the question right back.
“How can I encourage you? more? better?”
It will change how you see your spouse and change how you feel about your marriage!