I love my kids. There are some things I want my kids to know about motherhood.
Growing up, learning and watching, my kids are experiencing life.
As a mom of girls, there are some things I want them specifically to know about me, about motherhood.
Things they can take with them as they become mothers one day.
I remember early in motherhood when we were having a particularly bad week.
We’d had a taste of spring… running through the neighborhood without coats or gloves or hats, riding bikes and playing on scooters… but, winter came back with cold temperatures in full force which brought out the coats and gloves and hats and put to a halt the carefree bike rides and trips down the sidewalk on scooters.
Sunday, there were not sundresses and slip on shoes hopping out the door to the van but three very disgruntled and bundled little girls.
Either allergies or a slight cold hit the younger two causing them to sniff and sneeze. Then, it seemed that crazy, roller coaster mood swings hit the oldest to the youngest.
Attitudes weren’t good for my kids that day.
Sisterly friendships were struggling and unhappy.
Tears… many of them… at the drop of a hat, er, polly or squinkie or webkinz or whatever other thing that happened to “drop” during the day.
I remember thinking… What’s a mom to do? A mom that isn’t too happy about the cold temps herself?
A mom that wants to rightly parent through each of the many fits, tears and squabbles?
A mom who just might feel like shedding a tear or two herself once and awhile?
Well, as I’ve thought about that week, I thought, “I want my kids to know that I remember these days. I want them to know that I remember having little ones in the house and I remember how hard it is.”
When my kids are parents and in the season I’m in right now, there are some things that I want them to know.
- I don’t always know what to say
- I don’t always have all the answers
- Mommies aren’t perfect.
- Mommies have rough moments too.
- I can’t fix everything
- I pray daily and ask God for wisdom, for help in knowing what to say, how to answer you or help you fix life’s hurts
- Sometimes all I have to offer is a prayer and hug
- I want to teach you to love God with all your heart, mind and soul
- I want to teach you to run to Him for guidance and strength, that your relationship with Him is more valuable than anything this world can offer you
- I want you to know you are loved, you are beautiful on the inside and that nothing you can do can ever change my love for you
- Motherhood is the hardest job on earth and I so often feel ill-equipped for the position of mothering children
- I thank God everyday that He chose me to be your mom and allows me the privilege of walking this hard road with you. Even when it is a rough mommy week, I am still so unbelievably thankful.
I want my kids to know I’m thankful for these years.
and it’s worth every minute, every tear, every challenge and every prayer.
Spring will come.
Morning will come.
Joy will come.
This season will change and we know that all these things are working for our good as we trust in Him together.
What do you want your kids to know?